I guess You went You saw You read and then you didnt find the answer to your question..
If it is not so then the link below
http://www.edge.org/3rd_culture/gottman05/gottman05_index.html Anyways your question demands specificity so I try:
How do these fishes find each other in the depths of the ocean? (No fair saying ESP!)
REP: Simply because they know the neighbourhood.
Our awareness it totally different from their awareness.
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More importantly, how does the male know how and where to put the bite on his lady-love?
REP: It is the most beautiful Art and comes with the instinctive package...It can be learned also...We know it because our evolution has programmed that process within us.
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Do they glow with a certain pattern like female fire-flies, or is it by scent or taste in the water?
REP: I dont know.
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How does a fish the size of a ladybug know when he's met his match?
REP: It is based on behaviour and need.
Sometimes need dictates , sometimes Behaviour dictates.
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I doubt Cupid is involved. Do these females ever carry more than one male and if not how do they prevent a second or third attachment from taking place?
REP: Thats why there are other females to attract the remaining ones.
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All kinds of interesting Science questions occur to me. And they have nothing to do with anyone's ego. Let's stick to Science and see where it takes us.
REP: I am sticking.
Where's the Dire Puppy when you need him??
REP: You call him and he is with you.