Allow me to add something more personal...
Once I wanted to impress a White Girl(there are White girls even in our country) and screwed it up badly... I was no where near her in my life....but unfortunately or fortunately it changed me to such an extent that today it is very difficult for me say 'Thank you' because she 'did' nothing...and actually the whole process itself led to my 'evolution'....today if i want to impress her i can ... but now i dont want to ...because i am already madly in love with my wife.. i am really scared of loosing her.. i am working hard to keep her happy ....
Atleast in my life everything was centered around some female... what about you?